How to tell friend about dating non christian

Dating someone from a different faith can be incredibly rewarding or a disaster of biblical proportions. After dedicating six years to Evangelical Christianity, at 24, I decided to venture into the "real world." I landed on the densely populated isle of O’ahu, Hawaii, where I met a striking doctor-in-training with bone-dry humor, a motorcycle, and a Fu Manchu mustache (it was Movember). I had recently left the mission field, where my job was to convince people that Jesus loved them.

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We were too tired from constantly attempting to bridge our gaps in belief to keep moving forward.

Adam had tried; he had tried to see God the way I saw him, to practice the traditions I had known since birth, and to see the world through the lens of American evangelicalism.

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He meets all of her standards that she wants in a future husband except for one thing: They don’t know if he’s saved; or if he is, he’s a burnt Christian.

Adam tried his best to meet my needs, but he couldn’t fulfill all of my expectations — there was no way he could understand the full scope of pressures exerted by a culture he wasn’t raised in.

It wasn’t that our values were so different that we couldn’t talk about them deeply and agree on some guiding principles; it was the constant ache I felt for the familiar.

Sure, we were both college-educated Americans, but the people in my community got married early — like, ring-by-senior-year-of-college early — and then proceeded to have three kids before Adam’s friends could finish their doctoral dissertations.

By 27, I had been to over 50 weddings, while Adam had been to one.

The only thing they could agree on was that we should care for the poor — to do this, though, was another minefield of ideological differences and presuppositions about who was to blame for that poverty. He would scoop me up on his black motorcycle and whisk me to the best restaurants on the island, where we’d discuss our mutual love for travel and the family legacies we both shouldered.

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