Examples of successful online dating messages

I’ve been doing the whole online dating thing on and off for years now and let me just say, I’ve had the entire range of good, bad and ugly messages arrive in my inbox.There was a time I even created a blog to showcase some of the best of the worst because I felt the world should share in the horror with me.

There is nothing worse than reading a joke that isn't funny and then having the fact that it isn't funny, but that somehow someone else thinks it is, explained to you.

If your joke isn't funny to that person, it's either a) not funny at all, or b) not funny to him/her. In the middle of this city you're walking around in, surrounded by thousands and millions of people walking, you fear you might be the only one who likes walking?

If we wanted to read your profile, we'd have gone to it.

An online dating message is not the same (thank GOD) as a job application.

It's presumptuous to list a bunch of unrequested information about yourself in your message, because doing so assumes that this person already thinks of you as a candidate.

Instead, as with good tip #5, use the message to ask about him/her.

Anyways, he's probably pretty trustworthy, because look below, at the stock photo girl he posted on his page! A lot of it is basic, but not SO basic that it hasn't kept hundreds and thousands of online daters from violating these EXTREMELY BASIC principles anyway. Make your message one that someone — anyone — could conceivably want to answer. Chiara Atik at How About We has an important checkpoint for that message you're about to send off: Does it PROVE you read the profile of the person you're sending it to? Because then he or she isn't going to respond (unless you are unreasonably hot, in which case, what's your deal? You might think your boilerplate message is a clever one, but anyone who's had an online profile for more than two weeks can seriously smell the arrival of one in her inbox.

Writing an interesting question or two can't guarantee a response, but NOTHING CAN. Don't waste your time and don't waste anyone else's — you have to put in a little work this way, but just do it.

The format is simple: Here are a few examples: Though the message is short, it creates a commonality and allows for a dialogue to easily start.

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