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An overlooked and forgotten generation, Gen Xers didn’t really rebel against anything or stand for much in their youth. What we perceive as entitlement is, in fact, impatience.

Sure there was the Cold War, but it was the nicer, gentler version of the Cold War that existed in the 1960s and 1970s. An impatience driven by two things: First is a gross misunderstanding that things like success, money or happiness come instantly.

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We know that sometimes our wires can get crossed and the wrong behaviors can be incentivized.

Someone who finds the dopamine- and serotonin-releasing effects of alcohol as a teenager can become conditioned to look to alcohol to suppress emotional pain instead of learning to look to people for support. In this same way, the dopamine-releasing effects of the bing, buzz or flash of a cell phone feel good and create the desire and drive to repeat the behavior that produces that feeling.

What I believe is likely happening, however, is that more young people are developing an addiction to distraction.

An entire generation has become addicted to the dopamine-producing effects of text messages, e-mails and other online activities.

And while Gen Yers may be more affected by this short-circuiting because they grew up only in this world, the fact is that none of us are immune. It’s a clear day and the captain predicts that the whole flight will be a smooth one.

The Distracted Generation Imagine you are sitting on a plane flying at 35,000 feet and 525 miles per hour from New York to Seattle. Both the captain and the copilot are seasoned pilots with many, many years of experience, and the aircraft is equipped with the most modern avionics and warning systems.

Why the sudden and huge spike in a frontal lobe dysfunction over the course of a decade?

The Centers for Disease Control defines those with ADHD as often having “trouble paying attention, controlling impulsive behaviors (may act without thinking about what the result will be), or being overly active.” I would submit that this huge spike is not simply because more people have ADHD than previous generations, though this could be true.

Gen Xers didn’t grow up practicing drills at school in case of nuclear attack. The 1990s and the new millennium saw even more boom years. Even though our messages and books arrive the same day we want them, our careers and fulfillment do not. It is a result of a horrible short circuit to their internal reward systems.

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